Help! People created a Facebook hate group about me!
So many Facebook admins have been there. A small contingent of people doesn’t like the way we run our group. Maybe they don’t like that we make money from the group. Maybe they accuse of us of censorship. Maybe they have their own ideas for how they think the group should be run.
Maybe they’re jealous that they aren’t in charge the community we have spent countless hours, months, years building.
Sometimes, they go so far as to create a copycat group that they think will be much, much better.
No “censorship!”
No rules!
Free ads for all!
I have two hate groups. They each have a few thousand members.
And they are both seriously So. Lame.
The lamest part is their admins denying that they created the group out of any sort of animosity for me personally. The second lamest part is how completely predictable they are.
Yawn.
Here’s how it always goes:
- Some random drama goes down in my group.
- I remove some people or otherwise admin in a way that not everybody agrees with.
- Those people find one or both of the hate groups, and decry my group or defame me in general.
- The usual suspects (people kicked out of my group, often years ago) pile on about how horrible I am.
- The conversation dies down and the groups go back to being lame.
Now, I am not saying that seeing thousands of local people (my actual local neighbors) hate on me didn’t hurt.
Man, it hurt.
A lot.
The first time it happened, I sobbed at my kitchen counter for hours. I felt awful for a solid week. And then I felt stupid for letting social media affect me so profoundly.
But… guess what ultimately happened?
One of the groups is all ads and no conversation and the other one is basically a group of trolls that only talk about hot-button topics.
It is awful when somebody creates a hate group, but from my experience, once the new admin realizes just how hard it is to run a quality group, they are unwilling to put the work in and the group sortof fizzles out.
Or – and this is even better and has actually happened to me – they end up instituting the exact same rules they bashed the original group for. No ads, no political talk, and people get kicked out. (ROTFL)
Really, your best bet is to ignore it.
I know this is hard.
So, to help, I am sending you some positive vibes and favorite memes.
Hope these make you smile:
Hang in there.
You’re doing an awesome job!
Ha Ha. Smile I did. I’ve got to copy the links to at least half of those. Thanks Melissa
I have started and ran a group that was to show people how they could access Alibaba and buy a multineedle embroidery machine straight from the manufacturer. I had researched for over one and a half years to find what I believed to be the best machine with the best service and after care. I did it so people who couldn’t afford the usual price of $20,000.00 of these machines but could get them for as little as $4800 USD including taxes. These are commercial machines. I spent at least 8 hours a day, 7 days a week on running the group, teaching people how to use the machine, troubleshoot it, and also how to do embroidery as well. Because of me the company sold thousands of machines and expected to sell another thousand immediately. I had given them a worldwide audience, they had to put on more staff and even opened up a warehouse in the USA with thousands of machines added, just for the near future of orders,. Before this, the machine was only known in China and only sold to big companies. I did all this for free. The company made heaps of money and everyone else got a machine at affordable prices. I just got the blame for anyone and everyone whose machines were late or delayed. I took the blame for everything. I got bullied so badly that I had to just either close the group down or leave for my own mental health. I was so upset that all the people I had helped, which included the company, just left me to take the flack for everything. A month later, some of my admins, who had become friends, talked me into going back because they said the group was no good since I left. While I had been gone, a woman who had talked someone into making her an admin, had just taken over the group and was telling everyone what to do and was really enjoying the power. When I came back, she was very wary around me and soon cracks started to appear because she dominated me and copied everything I did and then started to have goes at me. I tried to fight back but then she gathered up her friends and formed a group of her own. She accused me of trying to push her out which wasn’t the case at all. A friend saw how she had started another group and was advertising it on the page. She already had sixteen members so she must have been doing all this in the background. This friend removed her as an admin and then the knives came out. She went on to a sister group and had obviously already been talking to them about me, and accused me of setting her up with this friend. This is the exact same thing that had happened the first time. When I looked through a post from the previous time I got bullied out, I found this persons name on the top of my bully list, and all the people who jumped on my back were the same ones as before. They knew i was mentally fragile already and I knew this person wanted to be in charge and she did finally admit that she wasn’t happy about me coming back, but she said I was mean and cruel and her friends laughed at me, and one said that I was a bitch and she was going to f&^k me over. I ended up leaving again. On the post where she had posted on the other group, she bragged that she was back in and was going to clean the group up. They joked about getting buckets and mops and bleach. This lady had only been an admin for four weeks and the group was over 8 months old but she said that the group had been no good until she took over. I realised that they had pulled off a coupe. She knew she couldn’t get rid of me by deleting me as an admin because I was the person who started the group, so she did what she knew I would fall for, which was verbal abuse. This verbal abuse was done to me privately. There were so many horrible things she said about me and she convinced me that I was the problem. i had a nervous breakdown. Since she has been in charge though the group is not growing. I used to get 25 to 30 new members a day and 6 to 10 on weekends. Now they are lucky to get 6 a day. As the one who started the group, when I started to get that abuse the first time, I was seriously thinking of closing it down, but so many people came out in support of me and said to let others take over, because they all enjoyed the group so much and that i had made it friendly and homely, but also very informative as well. I had virtually taken over the role of teaching, training and support for the company. They had expanded so big that they weren’t looking after their previous customers and were always looking for nice new shiny customers. I am out of the group now, but I am pretty devastated at how it went. I have so many beautiful members in it, which I had noticed were not posting or participating, because the abusers were all over it and doing the posting. I guess i wonder how can I get back into the group if I want to, in the future if i want to. When all this happened the second time, a lot of my admins gave up their positions and the few who stuck with this lady, as soon as she was reinstated, she sacked anyway. She has the full control of the group now. Is it possible for me to join up again, without her approval, or am I at her mercy. I shouldn’t have allowed her to bully me back out again.